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What’s in a Name?

Ah, yes. I think I may be having a small identity crisis.

This might come as a surprise to you (if you don’t know me personally)… but my real name is Chelsea Perkins. Yep, that’s my maiden name. Even though I’m divorced now, most people know me by the name of Chelsea Moser.

While going through my divorce – I was deep into the important stages of building a business. People knew me by Chelsea Moser – and now everything is under Chelsea Moser… no one knows me as anything else – aside from people in my past. And in order to keep my brand consistent and build my business without a change in branding… I didn’t want to rock the boat and confuse people by changing my name back after the divorce. So I put my business thinking cap on and made the choice to not make any changes.

I struggle with this from time to time because I can’t decide if I should stick with my married name (it’s been almost 5 years using Chelsea Moser) …or go back to my maiden name. I now have an established business and I’m not so worried about not being recognized by my name now. The name is in my business… that’s my brand. Perhaps – online – I just leave it the way it is and on a personal level I change it back to Perkins.

That’s what I struggle with.

If the plan was to get married again, there’s no use in changing my name now. But if marriage isn’t in the cards for me… am I supposed to be comfortable with a life known as “Chelsea Moser”.

Hm… yes, it’s complicated.

Maybe it’s a sense of belonging that I’m struggling with. Sharing someone’s name is so important to me (such a strong traditional thing that I adore) – and me not sharing my name with anyone other than an ex-husband… we’ll it just doesn’t make me thrilled. I’ve moved on and so should my name, right?

So the time is now. Should I change my name back to my maiden name. Or just leave it… and trust that it really doesn’t matter what my last name is?

Chelsea Perkins. Chelsea Moser. Which is it?

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Well, Hello October!

I always think back on my life and say to myself “what was I doing a year ago“… “two years ago“… etc.. It’s interesting to see how one evolves over time. It also reminds me of how scary it is to know how fast things can truly go.  I like to think back on my life so that I can become very aware of how much I’ve grown and accomplished over time… and to this day, it’s still amazing to look back on the growth of a human being in general.

Today – I’m in a really good place in my life. I’m more clear than I’ve ever been before. I’m in love… and loving like I’ve never loved someone before. I’ve built a booming business that has exceeded my wildest expectations.  I travel the world, my family is everything and I’m fully aware of how blessed I am! Mark and I toggle between two residences, Florida and Birmingham. I adore his children and love them like they are my own.  And lastly, I live every chance I get… more than ever before.  This last year has been one for the record books. A lot of  thanks goes to Mark for that. I love you.

Last year – I was living alone in Florida and enjoying the beach. Slowly finding myself again.  I was planning one of my very first trips with my new boyfriend, Mark. I had been dating him for about a month and he planned this “secret” trip to Las Vegas. I was told what to pack, but wasn’t told any details. It was a total surprise. We had a blast. Memories with him that I will never forget.

Two years ago – I was in a marriage that was struggling to survive. I was giving all of myself to this relationship… hoping that something would change and it would get better. Instead I was just slapping a band-aid on it… and pretending to be a happy betty home-maker. I was slowly dieing inside and I knew I had to make a difficult decision soon. And I did. I chose to leave.  Within this transition time, I also packed up my things and moved myself from North Dakota to Florida. Holy crap I can’t believe I did that… that was HUGE.

The rest after that is a blur. It’s a blur for many reasons. But for now, I’ll stop here. To me, it’s just interesting to see how a life evolves. And to look back on the different stages in my life and all that I’ve accomplished.

What were you doing last year at this time? Two years ago? I’d love to hear how you’ve evolved. Comment here.

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It’s all moving so fast…

I know it sounds cliche and so many people say this, but life is moving so fast! I wish there was a way to slow it down. Just thinking about it leaves me feeling speechless.  The speed of everything… It’s insane.

It scares me. I don’t want to miss anything. I want to experience everything… I want more time in the moments I experience.  I.Want.More.Time.

A big realization always happens when I come home to North Dakota and notice how much my nieces and nephew have grown! Taller, more mature… starting preschool, second grade…. huh!?

Wow. I remember the day they were born. I was there for all four of them. I remember it like it was yesterday…

Then seeing how my sisters have grown into such amazing ladies – and how beautiful they are. How strong their relationships are. They are so good. Growing so great.

I realize it’s been two months since I last spent time in North Dakota with my family – and so much has changed. So much has evolved. Where have I been?

That’s a good question. Where have I been?

I’ve been busy. Busy growing a strong relationship, a business… and within this past year – life has happened in a huge, huge way.

I think back to a year ago – and I was enjoying myself in my home in Florida. Creating new relationships and working my ass off in my business. And then – Mark happened. In the most amazing way.  I met him a year ago this month. It’s hard to imagine we’ve been together that long. And what a difference a year has made for the both of us. Mark and I have had an awesome year – our life has completely and totally changed from what it was over a year ago… all for the better. We couldn’t be more thankful.

Crazy busy – all over the place – that’s how it’s been.  Working hard on my relationship with Mark, loving his children, his family, managing mulitple residences, managing my travel schedule, his travel schedule… building a business in a beautiful way. Now, that’s called life, baby!

Sweet, delicious… life.

I just wish it would all stall a little. So much has happened in this past year… I haven’t even had a chance to think back on it until now. So amazing. So beautiful. So fast.

Who knows what’s next… all I know is I’m holding on. And I plan on enjoying every morsel – taking the time to truly enjoy it without having it spin out of control in this busy world. Enjoy your seconds, minutes, hours… time is something that is not on our side. Hold on…

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BangleandClutch.com Features Chelsea Moser: Do You Have a Path Bound Purpose?

Hi there! Solamar team here. Chelsea was recently spotlighted on BangleandClutch.com so we wanted to share it with you here on her blog. We’re very proud! Enjoy this great read.

As a young girl I knew I was destined for something “BIG”; the problem was I didn’t know what that something would be. I was born and raised in a small town in North Dakota and to this day my ND roots are the foundation for my belief system, not only my personal life beliefs but my business beliefs as well. Like many of you I struggled to find a path and a direction for myself. I knew I wanted to make a difference in the world and not just any type of difference, but something unique, something that represented me and something BIG!

It took me a while to find that balance we all crave between personal life and work; capturing the clarity and purpose I had been searching for. Once I decided to take a long hard look at what might be holding me back, I discovered that many of the obstacles were simply ones I had erected myself. With the ability to find ways to scale those obstacles and break down barriers; I found myself flourishing both on a personal level and on a business level. I found myself taking risks I thought I would never be brave enough to take, forcing myself to leave my comfort zone, and eventually found myself growing into an independent woman AND a successful business woman. Want to know the best part? I now have built an amazing business that I am proud of because it has allowed me to set my own rules and I can work from anywhere in the world.

A key foundation in my life as well as in my business is the belief in the need to nurture and grow relationships and remain connected. Given the advancement of technology, high touch relationships grow increasingly harder to incorporate, but even more essential. It is the solid base of these relationships that has allowed me to carve my path out of the static daily life and help others do the same. Life is incredibly predictable; it will change on whim, it will surprise you daily and it will force you to adapt and fly. It is this idea of stretching ourselves and of being uncomfortable that uncovers our greatest growth.

So put yourself out there and embrace the twists and turns that you may have to encounter on your path. You might be surprised at where they lead!

If you would like to connect with Chelsea Moser please visit her on the web at http://www.chelseamoser.com. We think Chelsea would look fantastic wearing our Bangle Bid to Win Carmel Necklace. 😉 This post is part of our guest blogger series meant to inspire and motivate women. They do not necessarily reflect the political, religious or other view points of http://www.bangleandclutch.com , Nannette Bosh, Nannette Bosh Inc., AskNannette Bosh, http://www.asknannette.com or http://www.nannettebosh.com .

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Some Call Me Crazy


Well, maybe not everyone. But, some do.

I’m the one within my circle of family and friends that has totally went in the opposite direction of most. I guess you could say the “less” traditional route. I didn’t necessary mean to, it just happened that way. I took the road less traveled as one might say.

And I’m still working my way through this thing they call life – in search of meaning and purpose perhaps.  I’m continuing to travel with hopes to create chapters in my life that are full of purpose and meaning. And I’m looking forward to a book with amazing memories. I’m creating a story that outlives my life.

When life twisted and turned and worked out in a way I didn’t plan on, I realized there’s much living that needs to be done in my life. I’m not going to wait for it, for anything. I’m going to do and be as much as I can – and show up in the world in a BIG way.

And I’m taking you along this journey.

I’m planning a trip to Spain this fall and I’m totally thrilled about it. It’s the excitement of the unknown. A place I’ve never been. Things I’ve never done. Feelings I’ve never felt. Yep, I’m thrilled to be thinking about this trip – and to be thinking about what’s ahead.

I feel myself growing with every hand I shake, every person I watch – and every unique place I visit! And that makes me really happy. Authenticity. Yum.

I will probably stop traveling at some point.  Maybe it will take a year… maybe a lifetime. But, here, on this blog, I’m going to keep you updated on where I am and what I’m discovering.

Wish me luck on my upcoming adventures. I’ll keep you posted!

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Ah, The Opportunities! LA Rocks.

Thank you, Los Angeles. Thank you for clarity. Clarity on life and business. I’m in love.

I travel to California quite often – and each time I come here, I always ends up having an “ah ha” moment or two. Not too mention… I’m exceptionally happy because the weather rocks here! (Downside = Traffic!)

Los Angeles is a place of authenticity. Unique individuals all around me. No one alike, everyone extremely different and wild in their own way. And people – in general – fascinate me. But LA – even more so.

People trying to make it in business and in life. Some trying to “be somebody”. Others focused on healthy living. And, don’t forget the hippies and surfers – and their carefree way – which is an awfully fascinating life, in my opinion.

Everyone here is showing up in the world – in their own way, their own speed. And it gives me the strength and direction to grow a little each time I visit. I learn so much by everyone’s authenticity – while observing, it makes me more authentic in every way.

I leave here knowing that I’m one step closer to showing up in the world – in a different, authentic, and beautiful way. I feel the strength in holding my own, being me – and loving that.

I give all the credit to traveling in general. Traveling has allowed me to step out of the traditional closure – and step into so many things all over the world – which, in turn, is slowly creating who I am today.

I’m so thankful that I can run a business from anywhere in the world. Again, another thing that made all of this possible. Anywhere I land (even 35,000 ft in the air where internet is offered) I am building and expanding my business. Pretty awesome, eh?

Speaking of business… if you’re trying to grow a business. Move to LA. Around each corner you’ll find someone interested in what you have to offer. I love the way that works – naturally.

Thank you, LA… thank you for allowing me to see first hand all of the amazing people on this earth. Everything is different here. It’s like a little world all its own. A world that allows me to be different, too.

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It’s All Coming Together

If you’ve been following me for awhile, you might remember me being a little “all over the place”. Having my hands in almost everything, working with everyone and totally and completely over committed. Maybe you even remember my splash page having a gazillion buttons (no joke!) at one point. Yikes, how embarrassing. You probably thought, “wow, this girl is insane”.

I learned there are only 24 hours in a day. 8 of which are meant for sleeping!

Ah, I get it.

You know, I think I was so involved in everything because I wanted to see what ‘felt right’. I’m the type of person that wants to try everything. And then stick to the things I love, the things that I’m good at, and the things that are challenging… to keep me on my toes.

Even though that may not be the way to go about doing things, it has totally paid off.

It’s finally all coming together.

I’m in the process of a complete redesign of my marketing firm and my blog. Both should be done in the very near future… so stay tuned for that. (I’ll be telling you more about my niche and direction on both sites… OMG! so good!)

And by redesign – I mean more than the look and feel. I’ve FINALLY niched my market. I know who I want to work with and I’m now in the situation where I can decide. I’ve stopped taking private clients, I’ve trained my team to be a team of amazing consultants supporting our clients, and I even have a few mentors that are helping me along the way.

Love.

My marketing firm now has business coming out of it’s ears. And I’ve positioned myself to allow that growth to happen without me being so involved in the day to day stuff.

Cool, right?

So, my intention in this post is to explain that it’s not a bad thing to spread yourself thin… and to try and do as much as you can. You’ll come out learning a ton about all different things (and people!). AND you’ll know exactly what you want to do, who you want to work with and how you want to make it happen. It was extremely educating for me.

I worked my ass off and the result — I’m headed in the right direction (for now anyway!).

I know there’s a lot more ahead. But I’m freakin’ excited. I finally get it.

High five!

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