Monthly Archives: July 2010

I’m Feeling Old!

Yikes! That’s right. Old.

This past week I visited Monterey, California for the MotoGP race. And let me tell you, it rocked. A very cool vibe and an all around great time. There are actually only two MotoGP races in the states. One in Monterey and one in Indianapolis. Indianapolis is in August and I’m super excited to be there, too.

While visiting Monterey – we went to Big Sur, the 17 Mile Drive and Pebble Beach – of course, the golf course knocked my socks off.

It was a great time, but let me explain about the feeling old thing.

I was talked into hiking up a huge hill at the race so we could see the whole track (yes, thanks Mark). I made it to the top, nonetheless. It was pretty amazing – the corkscrew turn and all. However, going back down was a different story.

Mind you, I have flip flops on. I’m just a flip kind of girl. Probably not the best shoes to wear. But I wasn’t going to let that stop me.

I had a little tumble down the hill. No traction on my shoes. Yep, sporting some nice road rash if I do say so myself. Yep, it hurts. And yep – I may have just pulled every muscle in my body.

I got over the tumble and was feeling great, actually. Minus all the marks on my body. The day ended on a good note. We had a blast.

But, the next day… I felt old. Really old… like can’t get down the stairs old.  But the funny thing with sore muscles (for me anyway)… is that they hurts so bad – it feels good! Gotta love it.

No worries, this picture isn’t of the “hill” I climbed. It’s of Big Sur. And it’s gorgeous! Thought you’d enjoy it.

I’ll keep you posted on my next adventure – minus the tumble, hopefully.

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Ah, The Opportunities! LA Rocks.

Thank you, Los Angeles. Thank you for clarity. Clarity on life and business. I’m in love.

I travel to California quite often – and each time I come here, I always ends up having an “ah ha” moment or two. Not too mention… I’m exceptionally happy because the weather rocks here! (Downside = Traffic!)

Los Angeles is a place of authenticity. Unique individuals all around me. No one alike, everyone extremely different and wild in their own way. And people – in general – fascinate me. But LA – even more so.

People trying to make it in business and in life. Some trying to “be somebody”. Others focused on healthy living. And, don’t forget the hippies and surfers – and their carefree way – which is an awfully fascinating life, in my opinion.

Everyone here is showing up in the world – in their own way, their own speed. And it gives me the strength and direction to grow a little each time I visit. I learn so much by everyone’s authenticity – while observing, it makes me more authentic in every way.

I leave here knowing that I’m one step closer to showing up in the world – in a different, authentic, and beautiful way. I feel the strength in holding my own, being me – and loving that.

I give all the credit to traveling in general. Traveling has allowed me to step out of the traditional closure – and step into so many things all over the world – which, in turn, is slowly creating who I am today.

I’m so thankful that I can run a business from anywhere in the world. Again, another thing that made all of this possible. Anywhere I land (even 35,000 ft in the air where internet is offered) I am building and expanding my business. Pretty awesome, eh?

Speaking of business… if you’re trying to grow a business. Move to LA. Around each corner you’ll find someone interested in what you have to offer. I love the way that works – naturally.

Thank you, LA… thank you for allowing me to see first hand all of the amazing people on this earth. Everything is different here. It’s like a little world all its own. A world that allows me to be different, too.

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It’s All Coming Together

If you’ve been following me for awhile, you might remember me being a little “all over the place”. Having my hands in almost everything, working with everyone and totally and completely over committed. Maybe you even remember my splash page having a gazillion buttons (no joke!) at one point. Yikes, how embarrassing. You probably thought, “wow, this girl is insane”.

I learned there are only 24 hours in a day. 8 of which are meant for sleeping!

Ah, I get it.

You know, I think I was so involved in everything because I wanted to see what ‘felt right’. I’m the type of person that wants to try everything. And then stick to the things I love, the things that I’m good at, and the things that are challenging… to keep me on my toes.

Even though that may not be the way to go about doing things, it has totally paid off.

It’s finally all coming together.

I’m in the process of a complete redesign of my marketing firm and my blog. Both should be done in the very near future… so stay tuned for that. (I’ll be telling you more about my niche and direction on both sites… OMG! so good!)

And by redesign – I mean more than the look and feel. I’ve FINALLY niched my market. I know who I want to work with and I’m now in the situation where I can decide. I’ve stopped taking private clients, I’ve trained my team to be a team of amazing consultants supporting our clients, and I even have a few mentors that are helping me along the way.

Love.

My marketing firm now has business coming out of it’s ears. And I’ve positioned myself to allow that growth to happen without me being so involved in the day to day stuff.

Cool, right?

So, my intention in this post is to explain that it’s not a bad thing to spread yourself thin… and to try and do as much as you can. You’ll come out learning a ton about all different things (and people!). AND you’ll know exactly what you want to do, who you want to work with and how you want to make it happen. It was extremely educating for me.

I worked my ass off and the result — I’m headed in the right direction (for now anyway!).

I know there’s a lot more ahead. But I’m freakin’ excited. I finally get it.

High five!

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Another Dose of Peace

I’m sitting on a plane – somewhere between North Dakota and my next stop. Leaving home. A place that is full of family, love, and a house that built me.

I always seem to learn a lesson while visiting home. And this empty place inside of me continues to heal each time I visit.

I’m not one to live too much in the past, but going home is a bittersweet thing for me. All those great times, good times and just plain hard times.

I’ve moved on in a big way — and I’ve done the very best I can. But sometimes I get lost in this big world I’m trying to conquer… and sometimes, for a minute, it’s easy to forget who I am.

When I’m back home – there are reminders all over the place. Like big red stop signs with little messages… telling me to be the woman that was built in a little town that loves me.

But still, an emptiness remains within me and it wakes up when I’m back home for a visit. And when I touch the place that built me, I am able to work through unresolved things that happened way back when.

I feel a sense of peace and I continue to heal.

I slowly get those pieces back that I left so long ago. The ones that I didn’t think I needed. And in the midst of that… always feeling the reassurance that I’m doing the right thing and following the right path.

Every visit is always another memory that comes bubbling up after all these years. Back in the day when everything seemed so easy.

A memory like my mom and dad dancing on our back porch late at night – and me watching from my window… admiring their love for each other. And that memory reminding me how important love is in my life.

Love in all shapes and forms. Pure, beautiful, simple… love.

Or memories of the world when it was a little less complicated than it is right now. Where family was within an arms reach, or a walk around the block. And that memory reminds me how important family is – in all ways. Family keeps you healthy.

And then I pray, in that moment, that I never forget who I am.

North Dakota built me. And I’m forever grateful. And it’s my duty to make you all proud. And it’s my promise to never forget – and to always come back for another dose of peace.

My life is in such a good place right now. I’m out in this big world and sharing as much love as I can. And it’s all due to the foundation that was built so long ago. Thankful.

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Don’t Let Fear Paralyze You and Your Relationship

Before I start this post… and just for the record… I’m no pro at relationships. I have a few failed relationships under my belt – and I’m not proud. But I’ve finally been able to break through something really tough… something that hurt me so many times in the past. And now that I’m finally able to break through… I’m not afraid of it. Or to blog about it. 😉

With that said…

There is a simple problem in relationships that is super hard to fix. One that hangs over nearly everyone…

In fact, most people in relationships don’t think of actually having this problem. But they all do. Trust me.  The only difference is that it plays out differently for each of us.

What am I talking about?

Fear.

Fear is the problem.

And before you start dismissing this post and thinking that this isn’t an issue for you or your relationship, consider a few things first.

Has fear ever stopped you from doing something that you knew would be good for you to do if you just did it?

If we all were totally honest, all of us have felt this kind of fear from time to time – and if we didn’t act, we realized we missed a great opportunity because of it.

This fear can happen in any part of our lives and can cause problems… but it can really damage our relationships.

When fear holds us hostage in our relationships, it shuts off possibilities and connection.

One place fear shows up with our loved ones is the way we communicate with them.

But, hold up for just a sec…

Why is it so important to take a look at fear and the role that it plays in our relationships and life?

Fear causes us to place bets on losing instead of winning.

The problem is…

When “losing” or “fear of losing” or fear of any kind becomes what you focus on rather than what both you and your partner want – then you almost always get more of what you fear or don’t want.

Period.

We restrict and constrict ourselves instead of being open to possibilities when we’re fearful.

When we hold back because of fear, there is no way we can have the connection, communication and love that most of us want with others.

There’s normally three types of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of failure and fear of being wrong.

In most relationships – it’s fear of failure more than anything else. Fear of failure can come up when you feel like every relationship you’ve been in has been a disaster and you don’t want to open yourself to going down that path again.

The problem with all this is that solutions can’t possibly bubble up to the surface if fear is holding a lid on them.

When it comes to our relationships, fear really blocks what we’ll call inspired action that we need to take if we want to create the best relationships possible.

So what do you do to get over this fear in your relationship and make it the best ever?

Well, first you need to make sure you’re in a relationship for all the right reasons. I mean, if you love someone – you’re willing to do whatever it takes to make it great. If you don’t feel that. Maybe it’s more than fear that’s holding you back?

Here are a few ways for you to start recognizing and changing fear in your relationships and start creating more of what you want…

First and foremost, recognize it. Imagine a positive outcome. Please don’t focus on the fear of it not working out.

Think positive. Most of the time, when we’re in the hole of fear, all we can think of is what could go wrong.

Switch your thoughts… it’s just as possible to have a positive outcome as it is to have an negative one, ya know?

Until now, fear may have created a wedge between you and your significant other. And know that there are many ways to start breaking through fear that keeps us isolated and unloved.

Think about where fear is holding you down… and try and move beyond it. It’s a pretty amazing place when you’re not stuck in it and the possibilities are endless… you’ll feel so much love.

If you truly want a strong relationship… let go of the fear – and simply live. It is what it is… it will happen how it’s supposed to happen. But don’t let your thoughts – your fear of the unknown – hold you back.

Because at the end of time, I’ll bet that you wish you would have just went for it…

Does this resonate with you? Comment. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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