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North to Alaska

A few months ago I started thinking about birthday ideas for my significant other. He travels a lot – and has been almost everywhere… so I wanted to figure out a place that he’s never been (already brought him to North Dakota for the first time so that wasn’t an option!).

I asked his kids if they knew where he hasn’t been – but they weren’t sure. So we devised a plan and decided to ask him (just generally speaking) where he has and hasn’t been in the US.

Well, it was slim pickings! But I was able to decide on the perfect place. And of course, it was supposed to be a secret… but after about two weeks… I said “do you want to know where we’re going for your birthday” and he said “no” and I said, “okay, we’re going to Alaska”.

Just my nature. I can’t help it. 😉

Alaska. Yep. I took him to Alaska.

Now, I have been to Alaska. Actually, it was one of my most memorable trips as a child. And it was the last trip I took with my brother, Brady. We had a blast. We actually DROVE with a camper in tow… from North Dakota, through Canada and on to Alaska… over 3,000 miles. Yep, our family did that. So many great memories and – FUNNY – stories. I’ll save this story for next time. It’s so good. You’ll love it.

Okay back to the trip… so I took my SO to Alaska about two weeks ago. We had a blast. I planned it all, but we didn’t really go with an itinerary. I like to just wing things. No plans! And I thought we’d just figure it out when we got there.

And we did.

We were both upgraded to First Class going to Alaska and coming home. And thank God for that. It’s a super long trip. About 8hrs of flying total (one way – two layovers!).

Anchorage was great. But Steward was amazing. We drove about 2.5 hours south of Anchorage to a little town called Stewart (which is also a port). We saw a cruise line docking there, too. We had a great dinner (Alaskan Crab, baby!) and then we walked around and did a little window shopping.

Yeah, it was cold. My SO was definitely freezing… but we were loving it nonetheless.

The next day we took a cruise to see Portage Glacier, which was unreal! We were up close and personal with a glacier… who does that?! And then we did some sight seeing… saw a few bears, moose… and we even saw Rudolph. Okay, okay… it was just a reindeer.

It was also really interesting to sleep in Alaska during the month of June. It’s light 24 hours a day. So the shades were pulled at night, but the sunlight still seeped in. Not to mention, they are on AST time, which threw both of us a bit.

But, we had a blast, no doubt. Now that we’re back home… I’m thinking of where to take him next year. Yum. Life is good.

Just a little tid-bit of my life. I hope you enjoyed it.  If you ever consider a trip to Alaska – I’d love to give you the scoop on things to see – and places to go! So let me know!

Oh, and Happy Birthday, love.

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One Solid Friendship Is All You Need

Have you ever had anyone that you could tell everything to? Speak the truth about anything – and they would never, ever judge? Someone you could trust with everything?

I’ve had many friends. Some closer than others… but I never had a friend that I felt I could trust with everything.

I always had great friends, but as I got older, I had a hard time getting close to anyone. I would keep them at arms length. Keeping all my secrets, all my truth – to myself.

So that’s how it was… friends with everyone, but best buds to no one.

While I was struggling in a relationship with my now ex-husband, I started searching for answers. Answers to life, purpose…  and during that time I met a great friend, one that soon showed me a path less traveled. A tough one. But a path of the unknown.

He showed me that I didn’t fit into that cookie cutter world. I wasn’t put on this earth to play house. Moreover, I had a bigger purpose. One that I soon discovered over a course of a year or so – with his help.

I learned more about myself through our conversations than ever before. He was a great friend. Someone who I could tell everything to. I wasn’t afraid to hold back. I knew I could tell him everything and anything and he wouldn’t judge me. He would simply be my friend.

He helped me find myself. The real Chelsea. The one that had been hiding out deep within myself for a very long time.

I eventually filed for divorce. I started on the path of discovery. My friend supporting me every step of the way.

I remember something – very significant – that he said to me. It still rings in my ear from time to time.

I was telling him that no one really “gets me”. And that I’m misunderstood.. and different. He told me that he’s slowing peeling back the layers of who I really am. And followed that statement with “Chelsea is a strong woman who needs a strong man, someone who she knows can take care of her, in every way. Someone who knows that she is just a girl, despite how tough she comes across. Someone who sees her for what she is… a woman who has spent her whole life taking care of everyone else, and who deep down, wants someone to take care of her, too. That’s what’s inside Chelsea Moser”.

Of course, this was also the first time ever that I was speechless. Someone pegged me, exactly. Someone who I could trust – and the first person ever who didn’t judge me.

Someone that “got it”. Someone that “got me”.

I remember that conversation like it was yesterday.

I don’t speak to him much anymore because we both are busy with our lives and our families… but he helped me through the roughest time – and I am forever grateful for him.

He was the one good friend that I could say anything to. Knowing that he understood. I never had to elaborate or explain things. He just got it.

I thought I was a hard case to crack. And to most people – I am. But to him, he understood every morsel of my being.

During that time, it was a safe place for me. A place where I could share all of my secrets, all of my feelings – knowing that they are safe with him. And he was able to do the same.

Thankful that I could be completely honest and open with someone. Comfortable enough to share everything and always knowing I had a real friend.

He gave me the strength I needed to press on. To see what’s possible. To conquer the unknown. To be honest and truthful to myself. To see the goodness that I am.

I know I’m very fortunate to have discovered such a great friend. And some never get to experience the feeling of sharing so much – knowing that you’re in a safe zone. But you’ll be surprised. That solid friendship may just be right around the corner.

You just never know.

If you were fortunate enough to experience this great sense of peace with a good friend — Comment here. I’d love to hear about it.

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What You Focus On Expands

I often hear – “you’re a really happy person… a breath of fresh air”, which is then followed by… “especially for all that you’ve gone through in your life”.

It’s a great compliment. I’m glad my happiness and positivity rubs off on other people. Don’t get me wrong, I do have my days (I’m not perfect!). But it’s rare. I don’t have time to focus on the negativity in life – in anything.  There’s simply no time for it.

What you focus on expands.

The truth is that all the worrying  and negativity in the world is not going to change things.  It never does. So, you can keep watching the news, reading the newspaper, focusing on daily negativity… and listening to the doom and gloom. You can keep focusing on the problem and you’ll just make yourself  (and people around you) feel negative, too.

OR

You can focus on what you can control. You can simply focus on the positive in things (glass half full). Spending anytime “down in the dumps” or worrying about things that are outside your circle of influence is counterproductive and a waste of time.

Now, more than ever, you must really focus your attention on what you can do to make things better. What you can do to make a positive impact in everything you do.

Get back to the basics.

Enjoy the good stuff.

It’s a wonderful opportunity to do what you really want to do. Ignore the past troubles and heartaches (even though they are a part of you, don’t focus on it – because what you focus on expands!). Open your mind to the possibility of making your life really good.

If it’s hard to focus on opening your mind to the possibility of making your “life” really good. Make each “day” really good. Small steps.

Sometimes we fall into that “black hole” that directs our attention to a really hard place. It’s tough. Trust me, I’ve been there and I know exactly what it’s like. But here’s what you do if you feel yourself falling slowing into that negativity, that hole…

Dance around it.

Notice it’s there, but don’t focus on it (what you focus on expands!). Just dance around it, creating a positive vibe that not only runs through your veins… but radiates off of you and on to other people in the most positive way.

There is no better time than right now to focus on the goodness in every day life. Don’t dwell on things that are out of your control. There’s no reason to. Look ahead and create that goodness. Focus on it.

Create a path of success, happiness and much love.

I would love to hear your feedback on how you create your happiness path each day. Maybe it’s something you do as a daily ritual that makes you really happy… despite hard things in life. Tell me about it. Comment here.

My happiness path is communicating with my family. If I miss a day, I feel it. My happiness is hearing my mom on the phone, catching up with my sisters, listening to my nieces and nephew giggle, hearing my grandma and grandpa talk to each other in the background as I wait for them to pass the phone.

And sometimes it’s not  just verbal communication. I love it when my boyfriend grabs my hand, gives me a soft kiss on my head, a look from across the room.

All of that makes me really happy. They all keep me grounded which points me in the right direction. They are my happiness. My positivity.

What’s yours? Comment here.

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Moving Forward


Sometimes we lose the power of the moment because we’re so rarely in it. We’re reliving the past or speculating about the future. We continue to believe that tomorrow’s the day when we’ll be more capable, more wealthy, more fit and more loving. Meanwhile, we’re just putting in time, dreaming of better things but not making any concrete move to realize them. Live now. Move Forward.

If you sit within the silence of your soul, and give it the time and the space, I think you know where to go–you know where to lead. You can read a thousand books and have a thousand people tell you what the right methodologies are–but to be anywhere, you have to start from your center and your core. It’s from that place of stillness where you’ll know how to move forward and how to move others with you.

Credits: John/Patrice Robson, Karen Tse

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“Dad, I’m going to travel the world!”

I remember a conversation I had with my dad many years ago. I think I was ten. I also think he knew his days were numbered, so perhaps that’s why he had this conversation with me.

I was having the “what do you want to be when you grow up” conversation. Of course, I’m the one that initiated the soon to be deep conversation. And let me tell you, I talked ALL the time. I think I was a little annoying growing up – to be quite honest with you. 😉

Anyway, I was telling him about all of the things I wanted to be. I wanted to be a professional basketball player, a professional golfer, a professional swimmer, a doctor, a lawyer, an astronaut… and a world traveler.

He, of course, always led me to believe that I could be all of those. But I think in the back of his mind he knew that I was also a first-class dreamer! But he did start talking to me about traveling the world.

This is what I remember…

He told me about his travels. He didn’t get the chance to travel much and I remember him telling me that if I get the chance, go for it. I may only have one shot. And then that conversation led into, “well, where do you want to go”.

Of course, I didn’t know too much about the world in general, but I kept saying I was going to travel the world and he kept saying… “where to?”.

My grandma had this globe in her living room… and we’d always close our eyes and spin it really fast… and wherever it landed was where we were going to live. Needless to say, I always ended up in an ocean, but I was always interested in the globe – the world – and all those maps that looked oh, so cool.

Jeeze, I didn’t know where I wanted to go… so I started simple.

I said I was going to start with the United States. Then move into Mexico and Canada… and then many other countries to follow. I remember him saying I need to start small, pick one and then just go from there. So I was game and said that I’d focus on the United States.

We pulled out a blank map and we started marking all of the places I had already traveled to. I remember marking off North Dakota, South Dakota, Montana, Minnesota and Nebraska. And once we were done filling out the map, I realized I had a LONG way to go. But I wasn’t worried… I had lots of years ahead of me. One step at a time. And the most exciting part to me was having something to look forward to. A big lofty goal.

I remember the conversation ending when I asked him if he thought I’d really travel the world. And he reassured me that anything is possible.

Well, he was right.

Last night I pulled out my handy dandy map. The one where I marked the states and countries… and I was really surprised. I know I travel a lot, but I haven’t kept track of it in awhile. And this conversation with my dad was something I vaguely remember… until I started updating my map with the places I’ve been to. Yep, my map has filled up in the last 16 years.

I only have 8 states left to go.  And I’ve traveled to four different countries.

I’d say anything is possible. Dreams do become reality… even if you’re a dreamer at age ten.

What’s your dream?

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