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What does Marriage mean to you?

The definition of Marriage has always made me think.

At one time, I imagined it as a dream. Being married to your best friend – expressing to everyone my love for my husband. My commitment, dedication, love, trust, passion…

When I’m around my family, especially my grandparents, marriage is defined in such a beautiful way. It’s pure. It’s real. But when I think about it on a much deeper level, what is the real meaning behind marriage?

On one hand, the only difference between having a significant other and being married – is a piece of legal paper and a way to “show” people you’re together.

In reality – these days, you can have a companion for life and live exactly like you’re married… without the legal paperwork. You can be fully committed to someone for life, and that doesn’t mean you need a ring around your finger to express that, right?

These are some of the things I think about – and definitely don’t understand. So I asked.

I asked my twitter friends and here are a few responses:

And then I went to facebook… where I received more feedback from my dear family and friends:

My dear friend also wrote to me and explained what marriage meant to him:

“I grew up in a strong Christian family meaning marriage was and is something very special. First off you have to have trust. I don’t think there could every be that period where you don’t fully trust someone. Also coming from a christian home, their relationship with God is something that I look at as well. I think it is very difficult to raise children in a home where religious views are split. My parents have been married for 34 years this year and no doubt about it, it takes hard work from both sides of a marriage to make it work. While I’m not ready for marriage right now, I hope these ideals and examples in my life help me find the girl I will finally marry some day.”

So my question to you is… what does Marriage mean to you? Does it satisfy the human need for consistency, stability and routine? Does it mean nothing more than a piece of paper – that is unnecessary?

I will say – when you have children together (or plan to have children together), it makes the thought process more complex.

But regardless, what does it mean to you? Define it here.

Truly, think about it.


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There’s something about those North Dakotan’s

Since I’m all about where you came from… and The North Dakotan that I am… I thought I’d tell you a little about my experience with running a business and having a virtual team – and how that ties into where I came from.

Now, running a virtual team is no easy task. Nor is running a business. But there’s a key to success and happiness in both.

First, running a business – virtually.

Well, one perk is… I’m heading to the Bahamas next week – and I’ll be working from there. I travel a lot. I travel for work… I travel for pleasure. But it doesn’t matter where I am. I am still running my business from somewhere. Of course, there are a TON of logistical things I can tell you about, but my point is – I can be anywhere, and my business doesn’t change. I just pack along my office in a laptop bag – and I’m set. So while enjoying the Bahamas next week with my significant other  – I’ll also be running a business, too.

(And just for the record, my SO is not a North Dakotan. He’s from New York. And boy, does that make our life interesting. Total opposites when it comes to our roots! But I’ve learned a lot about big city living and I love him for that. More on this later! Stay tuned.)

Ok, moving along…

Secondly, the people you hire.

Currently, I have six people within my company (me included). But I haven’t always had the same 5 people. I’ve been through a few that weren’t quite matches for me – and my business. But I found out really quickly… the midwestern work ethic knocks my freakin’s socks off.

No joke.

I mean… I know I have it. I am one of the hardest workers you’ll ever meet. And it has a lot to do with where I came from. But THREE of my Solamar gals are from North Dakota. And let me tell you, it was the best decision I have ever made. They are rock stars… and they allow me to run a successful six figure business.

Don’t get me wrong, I have two amazing gals that are from out of state – and they are TRULY amazing. Maybe deep down… they have ancestors from the midwest. 😉

Anyway, I’m a proud North Dakotan that no longer resides in North Dakota – but travels the world, running a business from wherever I land. And I know that a great deal of my success in running a rockin’ business – has a lot to do with my roots.

The midwestern work ethic and surrounding myself with great people. Perfect combination.

Now that’s good stuff right there.

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