Yes, it’s true. I’m single and alone. When I first came to terms with being alone yet again, I wondered if there was something wrong with me. Do I set my standards too high? Can I ever be satisfied? Am I asking for too much? Will I ever be completely happy?
But in this moment – things are different. Things are clearer. And I want to explain why I am alone and single. Here’s my positive take on it:
I’m single and full of life. I have a lot to offer and I’m not willing to just give that to anyone. I know people judge me about my current situation and my relationships in the past, but I’m unjaded by their comments. I laugh at them actually. You have to. It’s the only way through this mess.
It’s hard to admit, but I am lonely. I don’t necessary like it. But I chose this, and I’m in control of it. I have an amazing family, great friends, fantastic business contacts and colleagues… and I’m constantly meeting new and exciting people every day.
I’m alone because I’m finally comfortable with myself. I’m alone because I have never, nor will I ever, need someone to complete me. I’m already a whole, healthy and happy person. I have an amazing career, my own interests, and I’m proudly independent.
Don’t get me wrong, I would love someone to compliment my life, add to its richness, challenge me, introduce me to new passions, make me laugh, and be a real partner – romantically and as a friend. But, I’m alone because I refuse to settle.
I’m alone because the timing was off. I know I’ve let some great men go – because the timing simply wasn’t right. It sucks, but it’s life. And sometimes those experiences give you hope and remind you that even though it may have felt like a fairytale – all fairytales have bittersweet endings. Everyone should experience bittersweet, only because it makes you stronger and more determined to not settle. It’s simply a reminder to ‘keep on keeping on’… searching for your soul mate.
I’m alone because there’s more to me than meets the eye. I love exploring, going out, being adventurous, but I also love to stay in. I enjoy eating at great restaurants, but I also love to make a great meal at home. I don’t have children, but I love them. I love getting dressed up, but I love dressing down – wearing something simple, comfortable… like jeans and flip flops.
I’m alone because I’m not impressed enough by someone’s looks, title, or net worth to be instantly infatuated. I adore style, but I also need substance.
I’m alone because there’s a whole lot of growing up, life experience, and lessons-learned that made me who I am today. It’s not baggage, it’s a life lived fully and passionately, with its fair share of successes and stumbles along the way.
I’m alone because I believe that relationships deserve nurturing, creativity and passion. I don’t have time for people who don’t believe that. I’m alone because I can be, and I choose to be. But, that doesn’t mean I want to be alone forever. I’ve been in love, and I look forward to feeling that way again someday.
Special thanks to ‘B’ – you said what I was thinking… and it feels so good to get it down on ‘paper’.