Monthly Archives: December 2008

Do you have 2009 Resolutions, Goals or Commitments?

The definition of a New Year’s Resolution – per Wikipedia:

A New Year’s Resolution is a commitment that an individual makes to a project or the reforming of a habit, often a lifestyle change that is generally interpreted as advantageous. The name comes from the fact that these commitments normally go into effect on New Year’s Day and remain until fulfilled or abandoned. More socio-centric examples include resolutions to donate to the poor more often, to become more assertive, or to become more economically or environmentally responsible. People may act similarly during the Christian fasting period of Lent, though the motive behind this holiday is more of sacrifice than of responsibility. The new year resolution is one example of the rolling forecast-method of planning. According to this method, plans are established at regular short or medium-term time intervals, when only a rough long-term plan exists.

There are religious parallels to this secular tradition. For example, in Judaism’s holiest holiday, Yom Kippur, one is to reflect upon one’s wrongdoings over the year and both seek and offer forgiveness. The concept, regardless of creed, is to reflect upon self-improvement annually.

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nye07horizontalI’m pretty certain there are going to be hundreds of blog posts written about New Year’s and Resolutions.  Personally, I think resolutions are silly.  I only say this because I have never followed through with them in the long run and I feel that resolutions should be made more frequently – instead of once per year.

Have A Plan
Perhaps the key to a successful resolution is to put a plan in place to follow through.  But also make your resolution possible.  Something that you can reach for and work hard to achieve.  So if you’re going to make a ‘resolution’, be sure to plan for it.

Set Goals
I do think it’s best to outline goals for the new year – not resolutions.  Goals are great and you can write up a plan to reach each goal.  You can start by writing down your professional, financial and personal goals for 2009.  I’d say that’s a great start.

Establish Positive Commitments
I also think that a New Year’s resolution should be a positive commitment to give back.  But, as I said – this should happen on a regular basis, not just starting on New Year’s Day.

Give More
Try and make your new year’s resolution about giving.  I truly think your resolution/goal will be more meaningful and it may even make you feel good. Start by giving every month – make it a monthly commitment, and then perhaps you can break it down by week and then by day.  Giving can be a number of things: you know what you need to do to give more – so let’s give more in 2009.

Take Time For Yourself
While giving more and more, be sure to not forget about you too.  We all need a little TLC from time to time – and sometimes it’s easy to forget about yourself when you’re all caught up in helping/giving to others.  So be sure to ‘give’ to yourself too… you are your best investment!

Be Challenged
One of the best things you can do for the new year is to join the Gift Giving Challenge at 29 gifts.  Check them out here: http://www.29gifts.org/.

Take Action – Starting Now
Right now is the time to outline what your intentions are for 2009.  I would love to hear from you.  What are your 2009 Resolutions, Goals, Commitments?  How are you going to follow through?  Do you have a plan?  I will share with you my strategy for 2009, but first I want to hear from you!  So feel free to comment!

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To Deal And Find Thyself

This holiday season has given me time to think and to also step back from everything and analyze my situation.  This extra time has brought many things to my attention.  One thing in particular is realizing that I’ve lost myself.  I noticed it particularly when I was spending time with my family… I realized that I let myself go, and lost the urge to care for myself.

It’s crazy how you can lose yourself so quickly and not realize it. I’ve realized the need to spend time on me sometimes, instead of everyone else.  I need to focus on what I want out of life and what I love to do.  I need to not focus so much on doing things for others, and more time on doing things for me.

I think sometimes we put others first.  And that’s great – but sometimes you forget about yourself in the hustle and bustle of it all.  I’ve neglected myself for quite some time.  I’ve been so wrapped up in helping others (and working hard) that I realize now that I need to schedule time for me. It sounds selfish, but sometimes you just need to be good to yourself before giving yourself to others.

Scheduling time for me?  That’s hard to do.  I would rather be working on other things than working on myself, but I know now that I need to not continue down this path, because before you know it – I will have lost myself completely… and I don’t want that.  I’m a fun person – and I have a lot of life in me.  I just need to regain control of that and let it all hang out!

Starting today I’m going to do something I like to do.

To dig a little deeper on this topic, perhaps the reason we lose ourselves is because we’re trying to keep busy and avoid other things in our life.  But maybe what we need to do is confront whatever it is that’s holding us back and deal with it.

To deal and find thyself… now that’s a tall order.  Stay tuned!

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Book Review: Life’s Golden Ticket

Last week I had the opportunity to read the book – Life’s Golden Ticket.  I was so touched by the book that I wanted to share my review with you – with hope that you’ll pick it up and read it too.  It’s worth it…

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I really want you to read this book, so without giving you all of the great details, I”ll share with you my thoughts and how it helped me.

What did I get out of it?
Wisdom.  It was full of wisdom and it really makes you step back and evaluate your life.  You are really able to review your life and rediscover yourself – while reclaiming the life you were destin to live.  It makes you think about how you live your life – and how you really need to change yourself for the better.  You and I both know that everyone can be more positive and free.  This book is a must read for everyone and an open invitation to transform your heart and mind.

How did I hear about this book?
I had the opportunity to be on a conference call with the Author, Brendon.  He started off the call very personal.  He talked about a personal event that happened in his life and how this event changed him forever.  The event was so powerful that he had my attention right away.  That’s when I realized that I had to read his book. (BTW: Read the Prologue in this book – The Prologue talks about his accident, so I’m not going to tell you the details!)

You should read this book – and then gift it to another.
This book is a great gift.  I’ve actually bought several because I knew I wanted to give it as gifts for the holiday season.  On the first page of the book, it starts by saying:  What if you were given a ticket that could magically start your life anew.  Would you redeem it? Then it has a TO and FROM that you can fill out.  The page completes with an invitation message:  Please accept this invitation to discover for yourself the greatest gift of all – life’s golden ticket. Trust me, it’s the perfect gift to give.  Everyone can benefit from reading a story like this one.

About the Author: Brendon Burchard
Brendon Burchard is a prominent life coach, leadership speaker, and change management consultant: his clients have included Fortune 500 companies, startups, nonprofits, universities, and thousands of individuals in seminars across the country.

Life’s Golden Ticket Website:
www.LifesGoldenTicket.com

Purchase through Amazon by clicking here.  Now go, buy it now!  After you finish the book – please come back here and post a comment/review.  I would love to hear your thoughts on how this book changed your thinking too.

Happy Reading!

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I Want To Be Rescued Too!

247-1113980846-img_1543I’m listening to a great song by August Reliance called Bleeding For You (thanks GP!) and I immediately thought about my next blog topic.  In this song there are lyrics that really resonate with me.  I’ve always felt that I needed to be ‘rescued’ in some way or another… I just wasn’t sure how – or why for that matter.

I think we all want to be rescued from time to time.  Maybe you feel that you need to be rescued right now.  Perhaps you feel the need to be rescued by the universe because you’re knee high in work and life is hard.  Or maybe you want to be rescued by a dashing man – a real man that will take you in his arms and you’ll ride off on a white horse – into the sunset.

Wait.  I think that’s a movie.

Yes, perhaps it is.  But my point is that we all want to be rescued in some shape or form.  The question is – why?

Is it work, your personal life, your relationship, family, the busy life you lead?

If you feel like you need to be rescued in some shape or form, define it.  Figure out why you feel this way… and once you figure it out – take action and rescue yourself.  Because I think it all comes down to you and a void that you’re feeling.  Rescue yourself first, then it may be possible that others can rescue you too.

While we figure it out together, join me and download Bleeding For You by clicking here.

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Just Bought Tickets To The Eagles Concert! Yeah, Baby!

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You probably already know me quite well – enough to know that the Eagles weren’t really part of my generation.  But I have to say, I do love them.  As a matter of fact – there are many reasons why a gal like me would want to go to an Eagles concert.  Yep, that’s right!  I’m going to my very first Eagles concert!

sisters1I’m going with my sisters!  It’s a celebration of our 2009 birthdays (25th, 27th & 30th birthdays – and I’m not telling you which one of us is turning which age!).  Going to the Eagles concert is definitely more than a good time.  You see, my dad loved the Eagles, thus we grew up on that kind of music.  Let’s face it, when I was young we didn’t watch the Disney channel all that much.  My parents were rock stars (sorry mom – I have to admit it!).  But more importantly, now that my dad is no longer with us… the tradition still lives on and my sisters and I look forward to living on the legacy of his favorite music.

It’s going to be fun, no doubt.  We have great seats and I’m going with the two people that support me the most in life (too bad my mom can’t make it!).  It will most likely be a bitter sweet rockin’ time – as my dad is missed tremendously… but I know he’s rocking out to the Eagles in heaven!

So, this leads me to question my faithful blogger subscribers that know and love the Eagles.  I’ve never been to the Eagles live – and if you have, I would love to hear about your experience.  The concert is in March so I do have time to prepare! Looking forward to your comments!

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I am Woman (Part 2)

Part 2 is a continuation of I am Woman (Part 1) blog post.  Be sure and read Part 1 first!

I am taking time to figure myself out. To be quite honest, this has been difficult.  Personally, I’ve always avoided this question in my head about who I am or what I want, only because I’ve always put everything and everyone first.  But now I’m determined to figure out who I am and what makes me happy.  I’m FAR from having it all figured out – and who knows, I may never completely figure it out… but I know I need to start identifying it – because at times I feel so lost and I think it has a lot to do with not knowing myself as much as I should.

I am creative. I have all of this creative energy building up within myself, yet I still haven’t found a way to really utilize it. Yes, I do let it out in Twitter, Facebook, My Blog, Ning, and My Company.  But I still have more and I’d love to use it in a way that will be good for me and my .com life.

I am never satisfied. I know this is a personal issue of mine, but I truly seem to never be satisfied.  But I do confuse dissatisfaction with just not knowing what I want.  Not knowing what I want seems to be why I get dissatisfied.  I am a blessed person.  I’m healthy and living.  But I’m hard on myself – and I normally do things with all my might and put in over 100% but whatever it is, I’m still not completely satisfied with it.  I think in time I’ll get better with this – and just learn to lay off myself for awhile!

I am in love with hitting the road. One of my favorite things to do is to turn up my music and just drive.  There’s something freeing about it, IMO.  I gather my favorite CDs and decide what I want to listen to first.  I make sure to have full tank of gas… and I hit the road.  I truly enjoy the time alone.

I am a giver. I love to give to people.  I wish I could make everyone’s dreams come true.  Between you and I, I always have these moments where I day dream about winning the lotto and making a list in my head about who I’m going to give the money to and how I would do it.  I truly think I would give more than I’d keep… because I am a giver – and always seem to put myself last.

I am a bird! When I went on my first flight – I threw up on take-off and landing.  When I went on my second flight – I threw up on take-off.  I think I did it because I psyched myself out – and was totally freaking about it.  But once I allowed myself to relax and enjoy it – I LOVED it.  One of my favorite things is a window seat – because when I’m flying, I feel like I can conquer the world.  There’s something very humbling about being so high up amongst the clouds.  I have time to reflect and think about things… and when I walk off that plane – I feel rejuvenated.  Even when I sit next to someone difficult – I still enjoy it.

I am misunderstood. So many people around me just don’t ‘get’ me.  They don’t understand what I do and they don’t understand my goals in life.  I feel as if I’m constantly explaining myself – and it’s frustrating.  I’m not sure that people will ever ‘get’ me and I’m getting to the point where I’m ok with that.  But I need to ‘get’ me first – and I’m not quite there yet… still figuring it out!

I am complicated. My mind works in complicated ways.  I feel like I’m constantly complicating things, because I’m an advanced thinker… and not such a good speaker. So when it comes out, it doesn’t really make a whole lot of sense – but what I’m thinking make sense.  Anyway – it’s complicated… and I’m complicated.  But I’m ok with that.  The one thing I want to really work on and explore is my speaking abilities.  I know what I want to say and I know how to say it well – I just need to put it all together!

I am faith. I have faith in God and the universe.  I believe that God has blessed me and put me on this path.  He’s given me the tools to succeed… I just need to put all the pieces together and figure it out.  I believe in God because my father and both brothers are in Heaven and you must be a believer when you lose family.  You must believe that they are in a better place and that God is taking good care of them.

I am a believer. I am a believer in most things.  As a matter of fact, I believe first, then analyze second (which isn’t always a good thing – but that’s just how I do things!).  I believe that one day I’m going to be a successful gal in many ways.  In my career – in my personal life – and in living.  But I do believe that it’s going to take a lot of work and a lot of time.  But I’m up for it.  I’m ready to put in the time to make things happen for my future.  I want a family of my own someday, I want a career that’s amazing and I’m hoping to be doing something I love to do.  I also believe that someday there is going to be more peace in the word, because there is so much good in the world.  Everyone just needs to believe and do their part.

I am romantic. I’m not only romantic, but I love romance!  My heart melts for it!  I love the romance in movies and on tv.  I love being in the park and seeing an elderly couple hold hands and kiss.  I love happy endings – and I’m mostly in love with the little things that are romantic, such as opening a door for a gal or having an amazing candle light dinner.  However I do know that most of this romantic mushy stuff happens only in movies… but I do like to day dream about it!

I am going to be ok. I know deep down that I’m going to be okay and that I need to be more in control of my life.  I need to not be afraid of things and shoot for the stars… because I know that everything happens for a reason – and it will all work out.  And I’m going to be ok.

. . . TO BE CONTINUED!

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Twitter & Promoting Your Business

imagestwitterTwitter can be used in several different ways – all beneficial in my opinion.  Twitter is truly an amazing tool, but you need to understand how to use it correctly so you can position yourself and your business in a positive manor.

The number one way to utilize twitter – above all – would be to network.  Make friends, listen/help, and simply get to know your followers.  It’s really important that you start off my getting to know your followers first.

Why?

Wouldn’t you take offense to someone that is constantly selling you something and you don’t even know who that person is or what they do?  Wouldn’t you rather get to know them and build a relationship first – then listen to what they have to offer – second? I know I would.  I never give anyone a chance if they start selling me things right away.

Normally when tweeters approach it wrong, you don’t end up clicking through to their links that they are promoting because you don’t really trust them.  You don’t want to hear sell, sell, sell. Thus you lose followers and you will never grow your twitter base.

So take note – become friends with people first.  Promote your business and services second.  Trust me, it’s worth it if you do it right.  If you don’t use Twitter right, you’re never going to see the benefits it offers.

A couple of other things to take note of:

1) It’s really annoying when you setup an automatic follower DM – and your DM consists of a link to something you’re selling/promoting.  I only say this because you really should get to know the person first, then tell them more about your services later… after you build rapport with them.  Just start with a simple automatic DM that consists of “hey, looking forward to getting to know you”.

2) Don’t follow everyone and anyone just to get a high number of followers/following.  It’s not a race – find people you jive with and want to learn more about.  Make it interesting.

DO beef up your profile information.  Tweeters normally check out your profile details before following you.  Make it sound interesting – make them want to follow you.  Put as much info as you can!

DO link your Twitter account to Facebook – but only if you have very different groups.  For example, my facebook consists of mostly my high school and college friends, along with past and present colleagues.  While my Twitter account is filled with relationships I’ve built through Twitter.  Of course some people may overlap – and that’s okay.  But I doubt anyone would want to receive a Facebook post and a Twitter post of the same content.  So be sure you’re targeting two separate groups.  I am, so it’s all good. But if your groups are very similar – don’t connect your Twitter with Facebook.  It get’s annoying.

For all you tweeters… check out these Twitter Tools – they rock: http://www.briansolis.com/2008/10/twitter-tools-for-community-and.html

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